Ask most perfectionists if they're perfectionists, and you'll often get a pause, a laugh, and some version of "I mean… maybe a little." It's one of the few struggles that gets treated like a humble-brag. I just care too much. I just have high standards. But if you've lived inside real perfectionism, you know it's […]
There's a quiet belief a lot of us carry around without ever saying it out loud: I am only as good as my last accomplishment. Nail the presentation, get the promotion, keep the house clean, raise well-adjusted kids — and for a minute, you feel like enough. Then the feeling fades, the bar moves, and […]
Over the past few weeks we've covered a lot of ground. We introduced cognitive distortions — the automatic, inaccurate thought patterns that quietly shape how we see ourselves and our lives. We walked through the five most common ones and what they sound like in real life. And last week we got practical, looking at […]
We've spent the last two weeks laying groundwork. First, we talked about what cognitive distortions are and where they come from. Then we looked at the five most common ones — all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, overgeneralization, mind reading, and personalization — and what they actually sound like in real life. Today we get practical. Because knowing […]
Last week we talked about cognitive distortions — the automatic, often invisible thought patterns that cause us to see ourselves and our lives through a lens that's a little (or a lot) darker than reality. If you haven't read that post yet, start there. It'll give you the foundation for what we're about to dig […]
You know that voice. The one that pipes up right after you make a mistake and says, "See? That's just who you are." The one that talks you out of trying something new before you've even laced up your shoes. The one that, if it belonged to a friend, you would have stopped returning their […]
